The question

Today there was a question on the forums that caused me to think.

The question was "If you could, what would you want your Keyholder to do with your chastity?"

As I sat and thought, the idea I had was simple.

I would want you to "want me in chastity".  To enjoy the fact I am in chastity and what it brings to our relationship. 

So many had very interesting and in depth where mine was simple, yet direct.

Birthday Idea!...

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Handing over the keys. 28 days later.

 

My view of chastity and what it means to me has changed drastically. I have found clear picture of my interest and what they mean.

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I would masturbate, dream up a fantasy, masturbate, bigger fantasy, masturbate, attempt to be sexual with you and "want" the fantasy. Masturbating so much I had dulled my mind with the fantasies.

Anytime I was around you I was thinking of sex and the chance to have sex. So if touched, rubbed, flirted with I thought it was a advance for sex. I would grope and advance with negative results and pushing you further away without knowing about it.

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With chastity it took all that way. I don't see a fetish lifestyle. I see chastity as a extension of my devotion and love to you. I see it bringing us closer together, more intimate, and you more comfortable to flirt and tease without worries of advances on unsolicited sexual advances.

My mind cleared up and  my focus on you more than ever. Not masturbating, cut out the need for fetish fantasies.  I now find myself looking at ways to bring you to a greater orgasm and make your sexual experience better.

Anytime I am around you I am still sexually energized, but with the chastity and knowing it is not the scheduled release date, I enjoy your advances and return loving affection without you having to worry.

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I hope in time that we will continue to grow closer and rebuild the bonds between us that I so fractured over the years.

New chastity and thoughts

The big problem (I always have) is having a little information and running with it....

Over time, I have found better information and actually understand how chastity can be used within our relationship.

I know from discussions with my wife, that she does not require intercourse for sexual satisfaction. My thoughts of chastity would include, my wife being able to enjoy sexual satisfaction on a regular basis without the need of "feeling required" to give me a sexual release.

New scientific information on males has found that a longer time between sexual release is better for the relationship and intimacy in the couple and sexually teasing the male, building sexual energy without a release, increases sexual focus.

I love the thought of being teased,  my nipples played with, and enjoying the sexual satisfaction of my wife, without a release of my own.

The way I see chastity working in my marriage:

* wife has the keys so no cheating
* a set time between my release or actual dates set -extended periods between-
* weekly opportunity to be sexually intimate with my wife for her sexual satisfaction
* wife would have the ability to refuse a release or postpone if I was a "dick"
* chastity would not effect any other part of our marriage