A good read found on the net last night.

The Truth Behind The Belt

Male chastity is one topic that is not often talked about. The reason being such a psychological component to it that many people does not comprehend, along with the psychological component there is a physical component with advantages for men over 40.

After the age of 35, most men begin to experience a gradual decline in testosterone. A decrease of interest in sex is mistaken as a symptom of getting older. The decline in testosterone can cause erectile problems which add to the decrease of sex drive. The decrease of sex drive relates to increased masturbation and disconnect with the spouse, resulting in the decrease of intimate encounters or non-existence of encounters. Depression, high blood pressure, weight gain, lack of energy, irritable and easily aggressive tendencies is all symptoms of low testosterone.

Doctors will often prescribe testosterone replacement to correct testosterone levels. There are many natural ways to increase testosterone also. Male chastity is being used as a marital aid for millions of couple’s nation wide and a positive side effect is the increase of testosterone naturally. Increasing testosterone levels will not only correct the issues described but will also increase the ability to focus and be more successful completing task at work and home. 

Typically men continue to masturbate with a low testosterone level and low libido. Masturbation will give a spike of testosterone levels and good feeling but it is short lived. On average men masturbate every 2-3 days. With the use of chastity testosterone levels and libido increased leveling off at approximately 12-14 days. 

 

*Test subjects were split into two groups of males over the age of 35. Group one masturbated every 3 days and group two used a chastity device for 15 days. Testosterone levels were taken and compared to the % of level from an average 30 year old male.

Let foot enter mouth.....

Now my vanilla wife is fine with the chastity it seems now. And she seems to really get when she wants to use her power over the keys she sure can......

Well I got my foot in my mouth and started a argument with her Saturday. Of course I went over the top, and of course I came back and apologized. Thinking things were all good we were out and about today and I suggested her taking a bath and getting a nice full body massage from me. Now this was not only a plan to make her feel better but also usually after a massage she is more in the mood for a bit of making out at the minimum.

She looked over at me and simply said, "That's a nice idea, but your NOT getting out of that thing for a LONG TIME." Which I was quickly put on my heels and agreed that I wasn't looking to get out and it was totally her choice on everything. She pointed out that "I put my foot in it big time, and since I am locked it makes it a lot easier to get her point across."

Last words she said about it, "Maybe when the climate changes you might get a chance..."

Well I did ask for it....

July 4th special day for more than one reason.

I always love the forth of July and what it means for this country and what my grandfather and father put on the line for this country and for us to be able to enjoy what we can and the way we can.

I will also be enjoying my 60th day straight in chastity with no release of any kind. Yes a different kind of celebration to say the least. The device is pretty much a part of me and comfortable until I see something erotic or exciting, a lovely lady in a nice pair of heels or my wife pushes the right button and oh does the device remind me so well of my situation.

I have been luck enough to find a few different articles and information where couples have used chastity in a basic vanilla relationship that fits much of what my wife would be able to deal with. The one thing that is true about the summer and kids being at home, it kills a females libido..... My wife doesn't have any interest in "any" fun time with the kids up at home at night. Of course both of them love staying up late playing games and I have to work in the morning so I have to go to bed before they do. My wife also loves staying up late in the summer so I am fast asleep before she comes to bed.

The weekends I can't wait the kids out and fall asleep before they do. lol. It looks like the first day of school will set me at 112 days straight in chastity and  I believe the first chance we will get to have some private time will be at 115 days. Now the longest I have been in before was 87 days and during that time we did get some time to "take care of her" and I had to wait. Those times were very exciting because I would really want to get out for a bit but then find a happy place knowing I was locked and she was happy.

I am really thinking, if the chance does come up, asking to not be released the first few weeks we get back to having some private time. At around 140 days we have a "special day" between us coming up and that could be the day out.

I know many guys don't worry about how many days they have been in or how many days a year they are in/out of chastity. For some reason I like keeping track. I also, for some reason really find it exciting to be in chastity more than out for a year. The last 3 years we advanced the chastity play and in those earlier two years the most amount of time I had been in for a year was 145 days total. So I look at this year and could almost tie that with one sitting plus the extra 42 days from before I would be pushing over 50% of the year in chastity.

This gets to the point where we have been using chastity as a play thing in a way. When she releases me for intercourse I do not have to go back in, I am free till her next period and only if she tells me that she is on her period. This has me thinking that I do feel that I am actually a better person, my libido is higher and my attention is much better and focused when in chastity for longer periods.

I have read of many guys having X days that they have decided on with the wife that are days they get released... Aka; birthday, anniversary, holiday.. things somewhat like that. The rest of the time is focused on the wife and no releases. This is very appealing to me and to try for some reason. The catch for me is, I can only come up with two dates- my birthday and our anniversary.. That is a big jump from a guy that is use to masturbating a average of 2 times a day to what I am now....

But, time will tell where things go. It is totally up to her when and if I get out, I wanted this very bad for so many years, I will never ask to be let out. That's the one thing I vowed to her that I wouldn't do. (Now this doesn't include going through metal detectors or a doctors visit that I would have to remove it) that would be different. And we haven't had to deal with that yet.

Time Ticks by

Well when the alarm clock goes off tomorrow morning I will be starting my 44th day in chastity and will have bypassed the amount out of chastity vs the time in chastity for the year by a few days. I know that counting isn't that big of a deal but there is a little guy in me saying "how many days now?" and I just have to look.. That will put me at 85 days of chastity total this year. It being the 168th day of the year, "more days in than out".

I was a bit surprised on Fathers Day because all the "signs" pointed to a possible evening of intercourse and a release. Of course it started like all father's days do with a present from the kids and a card from them and my loving wife. She was exceptionally loving and kind all day. As the evening grew close I asked if she would like a bath, and she accepted. I quickly hopped in and out of the shower to freshen up before running her bath.

Normally on a night that I will get a release she will take a bath then come in the bedroom and lounge on the bed naked beside me before we partake in some cuddling and so forth. I was looking forward to her coming out of the bathroom naked, as the door opened I noticed her robe was on. She slipped over to the bed and told me "good night, happy fathers day" and out the room she went.

It was a mix of emotions because I was a bit torn not reading the signs the way I thought I did. However, I found myself happy to stay in the chastity and was able to go to sleep quite quickly and slept really well.

I took a moment to look at the calendar and started calculating the fact that her period is coming up in 9 days and she usually doesn't feel good a week before so that usually cuts any chance of a release at that time. This will set the earliest chance for a release around 60 days. Now this doesn't mean I will get a release, this will the be the earliest that she could be up to it. But with the summer going on and the kids keeping her busy and worn down, I can see that the release might go till they are back in school in September. This will put me at around 100-110 days straight with no removal of any kind.

This has caused a different dilemma mentally for myself. I love the idea of a release but now I have been really thinking of long term chastity being much more of a staple in my life and to the point where I question if I really need to ever be released.....

There is a fantasy back in my mind that starts with only having 2-3 scheduled releases a year, then it goes to, No no.. just one release on our anniversary... Allowing it to be all about her all year and not need to think if she would let me out or not. The fantasy always causes me to press hard against the cage and get excited but I do love to orgasm so.... lol..

I talked with my wife a week or so back telling her that she not need to worry about how long I have been in the device because there are many men that go years in their devices with no release at all. This was one concern she had about the device and after showing her some information on it she seemed more at ease.. This didn't hit me till today, hmmmm I might of created something here...

I love not knowing, I love not having control, I just wish I could last longer when she does let me out after a long time in.. But as time ticks by, I find myself very happy in my chastity and still not knowing when or really if I will get out.

How a show can shift my wife more to the chastity side.

With my wife watching the Tori&Dean show, and him being caught cheating has really increased the communication with male chastity involved in it.

With my wife being pretty vanilla, we don't really "discuss" my chastity nor does she show much interest in it, other than what is required when she is given the keys and when she decides to release me. But with the show going on, she started thinking more about it and starting discussing the fact that "just locking him up" would solve the issue. Now this made me smile seeing she came up with the idea herself.

This prompted a good bit of discussion on male chastity and the advantages of devices being worn. As I told her, "I would never cheat, but Dean said that too". I pointed out that since she holds the keys that it takes that completely out of the equation for us. She seemed to almost feel comfortable with herself knowing she has the keys.

I have started to discuss the fact that she doesn't need to feel bad or anything when we pass a month without me being released. Vanilla/RT life gets in the way and she doesn't get in the mood, that's part of my deal that I want. No release till she is in the mood for intercourse. This will push this "lock-in" past 30 days and with the summer happening I could end up being in for a good two more months or more. Now we do have two sporting events scheduled that would require removal for the metal detectors but I would suggest not staying out if we decide to go.

I do feel that she is finding some comfort now with me in the device because her "jealous bone" did show up a little discussing "if I was cheating" and I would say, "but I can't" and she would just grin and agree happily......

I have always wanted to get to the point where I just wear the device 24/7 and only removed when she is in the mood for intercourse. This has put us a small step closer to her comfort level of agreeing to the idea. Of course I would love to also take care of her orgasm's between my release with nothing for me as we had done with a 90 day lockup before. Both of these things can be on the table within the end of the year.
 

Time doesn't matter

Each day that rolls by and we get closer to another “time of the month” without release, I find myself contemplating much longer times in chastity. I find myself very content with my situation and in no rush to get out of my device anytime soon.

I am looking at the calendar and if things go last the last two years, once school is out, we never had any private time and didn’t have any chance for intercourse. Also with the kids around 24/7 my wife really didn’t have much sexual energy because there was never a quiet moment, plus with my work schedule I always have to get up early.  My wife is a night owl so our schedules also get shifted greatly during the summer. 

 I know that in July we have tickets to a sporting event here and they have metal detectors so the device will at least come off for that, but doesn’t’ mean a release.  Two years ago, I went all three months of summer in chastity with no release. If this happens again, and I am not released in the next 6 days, it might be the longest I have been in the device. 

In one corner I do hope that I get a release and others during the summer. In the other corner I hope that things will go as I foresee them going and I only get released for the sporting event and will “offer” to go back into the device unless she plans a sexual release.

I would like to see how it affects me mentally, emotionally and physically. In the back of my mind I want to offer up to her on our anniversary for her to keep the keys for the year. For us to have sexual encounters but only focused on her for the year. The release would only be on our anniversary. After that we could discuss and see how we both feel.

I have read many profiles and stories of couples taking on the idea of a complete year in chastity with good and bad results. Just like with chastity, time will tell and how things work will depend completely on her J.

Cheating and the advantages of chastity

My wife enjoys watching the Tori and Dean TV show about their life's. She has watched them for many years and always commented about how they both cheated on their spouses but felt they had found their "soul-mate" with each other.

Looks like Dean needed a little extra on the side. I took this opportunity to watch the show some with my wife. Since being very vanilla, the chance of her talking about anything outside the "vanilla" world doesn't happen much. About half way through the last show, she looked at me and said, "I don't have to worry about you cheating, at least when you are wearing your device." I agreed and said that I know she trust me but so did Tori with Dean. I would never cheat and I am sure he said the same thing. But he did......

She agreed that she felt I wouldn't ever cheat but did agree (for the first time) that when I do have the device on she doesn't have to worry about much. She had really never had much care if I wore the device or not. I "needed" to wear it and feel the power exchange, even it it was just her keeping the keys from me.

We talked a good bit about how the device made me feel and the fact that my energy was focused more toward her because I couldn't have a release. I feel that when I can masturbate I weigh the effort it takes to get her in the mood so that we can have sex compared to a "quick fix" with masturbation and I turn to the quick fix every time. Thus it also lowers my sexual drive and interest in her....

The chastity stops the masturbation, increases my focus and I find myself just "nicer" to my wife because of it. I feel more at peace and looking to enjoy time with her. She agreed that she can feel the difference when I am in the device and the fact that I don't "bug" her to get out of the device allows her to get in the mood and our sex has been much better ever since we decided the lockup we use now. With kids and vanilla life she can't flip a switch and get in the mood, which (being a guy) I can! lol

The show ended with us discussing the fact that it was very easy for him to cheat and if he hadn't got caught would he have told her at all. She even joked that someone should send a message to stick Dean in a chastity device and see if he is willing to prove he loves her. :)

One thing about chastity, with a device like mine, there is no cheating.