New/old twist.

With just a bit of free time we discussed what 2015 would hold for us this year. We both agreed that "long term" lock downs did not keep me at the level of frustration that I love/hate and that my focus slowly slips away from here as the months go by.

So we decided to try a new/old twist. Once again, today it was that time of the month so I went back in the cage. However this time, when she is "clear and feeling better" there will be more freedom but with stipulations. First she has to be back to normal, then I will have to take her out on a "good" date night, not just some normal night out, for her to enjoy. Then, and only then, can I schedule a release night with her. If vanilla life gets in the way and I don't get a "special date night" then I don't get out, If I get the "special date night" but vanilla life gets in the way and can't schedule a "bedroom night" before her time of the month again, I stay in.....

It takes a lot of thoughts our of her hands and all the work is put on me, I don't follow through, I don't get out. I will wear my collar when I am locked in my device so that she can see it and a outward expression of my submission to her for those that know what the collar means. She will wear a key that holds everything sexual we have locked in a chest around her neck to remind her of my situation. Thus we both have reminders, I will be very edgy with the shorter periods in the device, and our sex life will get more action.

Since I was locked back in today, I am trying to remember how long she has her "time of the month" again..lol

Freed from the cage.

We had agreed to make it till the end of January before the removal of the cage. I found quickly that the cage became part of my body. Yes I would notice it when I moved and when I got excited but in general, I could completely forget at times that I had it on. This was a good thing so that I might be able to get my work done quickly but a bad thing because I missed that "frustration" I felt and the fact I would "know" it was on, all the time.

When we got to the end of January we sat down and discussed the options, to continue, stop on the date and release me, or ????

I suggested "not knowing" when I would get out and see if that would bring that "spark" back to the chastity that I so loved. I figured the 14th of February would be a dead give away so didn't expect it then. Sure enough, I didn't get out. I found a bit of the "spark" back but still nothing like it was before.

Last night, she surprised me with the keys and after such a long time I was free again. I can say, after all the time in, everything worked just fine. My sensitivity was greater because of the lack of stimulation so I didn't last that long. There was a bit of a "crash" knowing how long I had went in the device. However, I slept like log.

Today I reflected back and have came to the conclusion, "for me" I found that when it was my wife's time of the month, I would go in, and then wait till she was in the mood to get out, knowing that she wouldn't let me go more than a month or two. This seemed to keep me mentally in check and physically in check. My body still was not completely a custom to the device and kept me noticing it. My mind would find the device and quickly get excited at any chance to get out or even any touch of the cage.

My wife wanted me to think about things and discuss because she even agreed, I became too comfortable with the cage and the excitement was "gone" for me.

Now for a new chapter that could start very soon since she is only a week away or so from her 'time of the month". Now that my journey has came to a end, my mind is clear to express again and feel my post will come more frequently again.

First 100 Days

On July 31st, 2013 I put my Looker 03 on for the first time. Wearing it for 30 days straight with no issues and knowing that I had found the device I had been searching for. This was a exciting time, the frustrations of fitting and escape had washed away. The thought quicklu came to, "how long could I go in it?"

 I fast forward to today and look at 100 days so far with 169 to go. My wfie had never been able to go "all-in" with the idea of chastity because of the issues before. Plus soon as I would be in the device the sexual buildup would have me all over her. As my blog shows in past post, we have tried different games or ideas for when I would be locked up and when I would be released.

I am not quite sure how things have changed so much over the last few weeks. I have found a comfort in the device and enjoyment of bringing my wife to a orgasm with no possible chance for a release from the device. We have discussed the possiblities of not having to remove the deviceto achieve a orgasm for me. Using a strong vibrator or the newest interest I have found "nipple orgasms".

It seems that many men have been able to achieve "nipple orgasms" with no stimulation to the penis. This requires the male to have their nipples be one of their high erotic zones. My nipples are my HIGHEST erotic zone...

Something that interest me greatly is the mental shift that happens when in long term chastity. Shifting from the thought "will I get out tonight" to "why do I need out", I enjoy getting to orgasm, I enjoy intercourse, yet I find being kept from it a very erotic/comforting/connecting place also.

I will see if this is a constant feeling as the days go by or changes. 

TIme ticks by

It seems that each day that goes by things stay about the same. My sexual drive is up there and if there is any attention or chance for getting my wife off I am jumping at the idea.

Last night, she seemed in the mood, I offered a nice bath. She accepted and after I gave her a great massage, I was getting all worked up thinking that she will enjoy a nice orgasm and then might feel up for some more kissing and making out after. However, once the massage was finished (maybe I was too good) she was almost asleep. She was so relaxed she decided to pass up on me taking care of her.

This was a bit of a low because I had got sexually charged thinking I would at least get to give her a orgasm, I didn't however miss any chance to get out (knowing there would be none) I started thinking how my sexual energy is focused more on her.

I am looking forward to the colder months she tends to like to snuggle close when it is cold. Right now in Texas it is too hot to get close to anyone at night lol.

Took the next step, a big step

I have been in my device for right at 85 days now. I found that over the last few months a few things have happened that didn't happen before.

The first time I was locked in my device for 87 days we were playing a dice game that I made up and with the way I rolled the dice each time I got a change to get out it worked out that I was at day 87 when I got a release. Now each week I would roll and end up with either more days and it was completely sexual. Every day I thought XXX days till I roll again and had a chance to get out. This was very exciting and frustrating at the same time. However, when I did finally get my release, it was more of a letdown than what I expected. There wasn't fireworks going off in my head it was just a "good orgasm".... Nothing more... nothing less... Then we took a long break and the experience was chalked up and we went on.

This time, there was no set time in the device, there were no dice games, just wear it till she is in the mood. The first two months it were very sexually based. I was looking each time for a possible outing and none came. As month 3 rolled around I noticed things started changing. My sexual energy began to switch from the device to my wife. Her touch became like electricity running through me. She would "tweak" my nipples and this would drive me crazy with lust (Love my nipples to be played with).

Each week we have sat time aside so that I can take care of her orgasm. Last week, once done I slipped up to her and we were kissing, she began to play with my nipples. Fireworks went off in my head, electricity shot through me, I felt like I was on the edge of a orgasm when she smiled and stopped. I was in heaven. She drifted off to sleep and I found that men can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone with no attention to the penis. I knew I was one of the guys that could achieve this if she would have continued. I drifted off to sleep loving the experience.

I noticed each day when I kiss her and when we touch it is almost a pleasure itself like no other now. I believe it is because of the chastity and began to think.... This is why some don't want out of their devices..... My wife does not need intercourse at all to orgasm and intercourse has only been for my pleasure alone all these years (I always take care of her first). I sat down and thought, could I go a lot longer, with no chance of a outing? Could I achieve a orgasm with no stimulation alone to the penis? Was I willing to give it all up, to totally devote myself to my wife for a longer period?

A few days went by with me thinking long and hard about it. I made the decision and wrote the email. Knowing I needed to pick a day far in the distance but not too far so that I could really know if my feelings were still totally sexual or genuine to my wife, love and devotion for her. I decided one day we could remember easy, January 31st. When all W2's have to be sent out .lol.

I asked her to hold the keys with no release or removal (other than needed for doctor or metal detectors) and of course our weekly times to enjoy. She agreed easily saying she has seen a good shift of my personality and attention toward her and our relationship the last month. So with that said,  6 months are now on my path with no removal. I have dreamed of the day where I would not have a chance to choose. This day is now. I believe that once 2015 comes I will have only been "free" 82 days in 2014.. What a change from years past.

In 2015 once we reach that day, she has agreed to assess the experience and decide if I ever need to be released again for intercourse or sexual pleasure. She did say that she might use a vibrator while I am in my device and I of course have no issues with that! She also wants to see if I can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone before every trying a vibrator. Being semi-permanent based will see if I can mentally deal with the situation and if it is good/bad/does nothing for our relationship.

I know that my focus is 100% on her and can only see it growing as the months go by. When she came to me and said she would be glad to just keep the keys and see how things go in 2015 I was excited beyond believe and also a bit scare. Time will tell and I think my thoughts will end up here on a regular bases.

Past 75 days..

Today marks the 77th day that I have been in my device without any release or removal of any kind.

I have been torn a good bit on how long that I might be kept in the device and if that would really get to me at some point. Lately I have been showing my wife different bits of information that I have found that shows that there isn't any medical reason to remove me from my device and just like the last two post I have posted I shared those with her also.

I find that I am more focused and less interested in "wild" fantasies as I was before. I do think this is because of the chastity because as I would masturbate I would find myself getting bored and coming up with more "interesting" fantasies to fuel the fire so that I might reach a orgasm quicker.

Last night was a big stepping stone for me. We settled down for the night with a bath for her, a massage and then I was able to bring her to a nice orgasm to top off the night. Now I knew that there was no expectations for me to get out and I really enjoyed being able to focus on her. When finished I always slip up to her and give her a kiss, and when not locked, I then enter her for my turn. However, when locked I will do the same but give her a kiss and usually move to the side of her.

This time, I stayed as we talked and she reached up and began to play with my nipples. Now this is the most erotic zone of my body and anytime she wants me to "finish" quickly or she is ready for me to finish she just dials in the knobs and I am done. As we kissed and talked she continued to play with my nipples and waves of energy spiked and flowed throughout my body. Many times if felt like mini orgasms as I would shutter and jerk as she smiled and giggled.

I had never experienced something like that and after a while she was finished playing with me and the night was over. I however could not get the energy and excitement I felt out of my head and how I could feel that with no direct stimulation to my penis. I began to search on the internet and found that many men have had the same experiences I have.

In fact, quite a few have been able to have a orgasm by stimulation the nipples only. I do not think this could ever happen to me without my wife doing the stimulation to the nipples but my erotic curiosity has the best of me. I now wonder and want to explore the possibility of achieving a orgasm with no direct stimulation to the penis and mainly focusing on stimulation to the nipples.

This would/could bring the chastity to a completely different level. My wife does not need intercourse for a orgasm and if she could bring me to a orgasm with no stimulation and without removing the device, that would be mind boggling. How would that feel?!?!?!

The research has started on my part and as I see it right now, I am going out of town for a good week so unless there is a unlock tonight, I will be in and should break my record of 87 days shortly. Time will tell.. But till then, ..... Searching "nipple orgasm""... :)

Article sent by a friend

 

I was sent this article, not sure where it came from other than a friend on Fetlife. I found it very interesting and so did my wife. 

The Secret With In The Belt
With male chastity there is a side that is spoken of but never explained well. The reason and want for “tease and denial”. Men that use male chastity for extended periods (over a month) begin to have urges for “tease and denial”. The attempt to explain this to their spouse typically is unsuccessful.
The increase of testosterone and libido with extended chastity will level off after ~12-14 days. This allows a level amount of testosterone and libido allowing a better focus and function without distractions. This will cause the urge to focus on the spouse and not to have the need to complete an orgasm. The majority of men prefer to be tantalized to the edge of an orgasm without having one in extended chastity. This creates the term “tease and denial” and the need for it.

This includes sexual encounters without removal of the device or an orgasm from the male. The focus of the encounter is strictly on the spouse and sharing the spouse’s orgasm. This is a very common practice in tantric sex. The male can orgasm without intercourse still encased in the device and will feel the spouse’s outlet of energy, producing a stronger orgasm for the spouse and a close connection of the orgasm with the male. This can be achieved with practice.

To achieve this connection, with in foreplay both the spouse and male will bring the sexual energy to the edge of the need for intercourse. For the spouse this is more difficult since the male is “trapped” and usually the penis is the focal point of energy focus. The spouse can focus on any other erotic zone that tips the males energy. An unknown and highly effective zone is the male nipples. Throughout history documentation shows that men have been able to orgasm by nipple stimulation alone when at a very high erotic state. Other zones will differ with each male.

“Tease and denial” effectively is created when the spouse builds the energy of the male before the spouse will achieve an orgasm. The male will crest at the edge of an orgasm or complete an orgasm at this time. If the male isn’t able to orgasm it completes the “tease and denial”, if the male does orgasm there is still a “denial” of direct stimulation.

This does not mean that direct stimulation (removed from the device) by intercourse or other means should be bypassed. They result will create a much stronger orgasm of the male when this happens and the focus of the orgasm will be centered completely on the spouse. The time between “tease and denial” and direct stimulation is dependent on the couple. Some couples wait a few weeks where others wait a few months to even a year or longer. The major dependent, of the time, is related to the device and ability to wear long periods. Men surveyed stated the philological effect develops a greater connection between the male and spouse, enjoyment of surpassing direct stimulation orgasms, and a more meaningful trusting relationship.