Wednesday, February 26, 2014
The longest time I have been in chastity is 87 days with this device. Since then we usually average around 6-10 days because of the length of her period and time it takes for her to "get into the mood". This month, my wife had a procedure at the doctors office that had kept her off her feet and not feeling well. During this time I have had more time to reflect on the fact that I 'know" that I will not get out any time soon.
I sit and reflect that if she "forgot" she had the keys or just didn't want me out for a long time, I wouldn't care. Knowing that I want to be under her control and totally devoted to her, I saw this cartoon, and found a warmth in my life knowing she has the keys..
Saturday, February 22, 2014
I was on a forum post today and the question was asked "What is chastity to you, and what is the most important part of chastity?"
In more words, the things that mean the most to me are more than just words. There is a part of me that grows, and what you would think when you want something is "more" but with chastity for me, it is "less". To explain better, it's a simpler life. When out of my device, I find that my fantasies grow with my masturbation, things I want become more advanced, more needy. With the chastity as the days go by, my needs drop and I become more focused on just my wife and my love and devotion to her. My commitment to her with my love, heart and soul, this grows and stays strong as I am in chastity, those things can slip when out of chastity because I can easily please myself with masturbation. With the denial comes self improvement in myself around the home and with my wife. I feel more myself of old, I know that in males testosterone grows and peaks as our libido, and also drops when I masturbate. So the key is to not masturbate, all things are better when I don't and keep myself for my wife. I can not do that alone, masturbation and my fetish thoughts take control when I want to not masturbate. Chastity solves this for me, my wife holding the keys allows my energy and devotion to be directed 100% to her.
As I for the post, a list of things came to mind;
Friday, February 21, 2014
The whole point of the chastity was for her not to have to do anything and when she was "in the mood" she could then pay attention. Plus the fact that I could escape from the devices did not add to the experience in a good way.
I was "wanting chastity" but not getting it because I could escape, and couldn't wear the device comfortably for very long. Frustration would set in my wife and she just wouldn't want to continue, nor would I after a while. Then a few weeks would go by, the fetish itch would be so great I would beg for us to try again, I would pick up a new device and try again. Fail again.. "wanting chastity" but not getting it....
We took a long break, ( my wife might have thought it was over ) then I found the Looker 03.... I didn't want to say anything to her about it, I measured, remeasured, remeasured, measured, and then finally ordered. The device came in, fit perfect, yet I wasn't sure to tell her yet... I took the keys and put them under her side of the bed knowing I couldn't access them at night when I would normally masturbate.
I made one month completely with no removal at any point, it was in the summer which with vanilla life our sex life comes to pretty much a halt. We discussed a date night so I removed the device while she was getting ready. We had a wonderful night and the orgasm was fabulous! The next day I sat her down and explained the new device and showed her.
I told her at this time, I believed I could be "in chastity" for once in my life. Since then, the device goes on, we don't speak of it, and I wait... I don't need teasing, the fact that it is on es the pleasure I need. Knowing she has all the keys, she will decide when she is in the mood, and the time isn't set.
All these thinks bring happiness and a comfort to my soul knowing she controls me, owns me, and has all of me.. heart, soul and physically... This is ...... being in chastity....
Thursday, February 20, 2014
I do think that some time of sexual tension needs to be introduced at times to keep my libido high. If locked and forgotten, I am still quite tolerable and patience but my libido does drop some. It never drops like after a orgasm but doesn't stay higher as when there is a sexual tension added.
If left in chastity for more than 7-10 days there is a complete security and comfort that grows with the chastity. There is no more discomfort like at the beginning when my libido is tipping the scale. It level's off at a much higher level than it would be in any way, and even higher than if I was able to masturbate when I wanted to, so I think that chastity is a great part of a marriage. It has been a great part of ours.
"Men’s Libido and Lasting Marriage
After 11 years of marriage I was shocked to find out that my husband was having an affair. This was a crushing blow to myself esteem and trust of my husband. After a year of counseling with a marriage counselor and couples sex counselor, I forgave him but did not forget. I feel what I learned could help signal to others, the problems that caused our issues and his affair.
A normal male’s libido is much like a sign wave with peaks and valley’s. The amount of amplitude and time between the peak and valley differs with each male. When the male is in a valley, they are typically less likely to want contact with their partner. When the male is in a peak, they are focused on the goal of a release, with or without their partner. The optimum period is the rise of the wave to the edge of the peak, during this time the male will want to interact with his partner and not necessarily need a release.
Our problem as a couple was compounded by the inability to get on the same schedule. Men have many more peaks and valley’s than females, averaging every 2-4 days compared to every 12-16 days. Thus if my peak met a valley for him, there was no contact. Both of us had to work to balance our peaks at the same time so that we could have more encounters that were pleasurable for both of us.
The advice we found that worked for us was to find a way to slowly elongate his wave to match closer to mine allowing us to be on the same schedule. Men are much more pliable and able to adapt when they need to be."
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
I have always thought of ways to bring my wife to a stronger or better orgasm. I have bought different vibrators, sexual adds and literature on how to help her orgasm be stronger.
The other night on a forum, I was reading how many have used strapon's to bring their significant other to a stronger or better orgasm. I had a very strong feeling that a strapon used would not go well with my wife. I then found discussion on penis sleeve's and the effect it had on the feelings for the woman. The sleeve gives length and girth to the penis and allows the natural flow of intercourse.
The reviews I found seemed very positive for the female and the lack of stimulation was a down point for some men but for myself I thought of it being a perfect match. The idea of bringing her to a orgasm without major stimulation to myself is high on my list.
At this time I am "locked down" and do not know when the time will come to explore this chapter. I have received a sleeve like the one shown here and from the reviews and size was the best match I could come up with.
I would love to know if anyone else has ever had this idea or tried this idea. I plan to add a small bullet vibrator/ring at the base of the penis/sleeve for direct stimulation for her.
Monday, February 17, 2014
I don't keep any keys, she keeps all 4 keys and I figure that if something happens, then it happens and I don't really care who finds out. The idea of having no way out of the device and having to wear it till she gives the keys back is one of the largest reasons I picked the device I have and know that the loss of control is real.
I see summer around the corner and I know that last summer things came to a complete stop because of our vanilla life. The year before, I just wore the device the complete summer till the kids went back to school. This year could be the same and I get to wear the device the complete summer. If so, I might break the 87day mark that is my longest time in.
My wife has got somewhat comfortable with the chastity and things have gotten better each time.
I look forward to the day that she enjoys getting the keys and enjoys taking time before "ever" giving them back.
Saturday, February 15, 2014
Now I was "told" it was a APP and they were not sure if Android or Iphone. I have both, so just need the app.
Has anyone happened to see this app or something like it? It is a count up timer that allows you to input the "title" and when you want it to start.