Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Took the next step, a big step

I have been in my device for right at 85 days now. I found that over the last few months a few things have happened that didn't happen before.

The first time I was locked in my device for 87 days we were playing a dice game that I made up and with the way I rolled the dice each time I got a change to get out it worked out that I was at day 87 when I got a release. Now each week I would roll and end up with either more days and it was completely sexual. Every day I thought XXX days till I roll again and had a chance to get out. This was very exciting and frustrating at the same time. However, when I did finally get my release, it was more of a letdown than what I expected. There wasn't fireworks going off in my head it was just a "good orgasm".... Nothing more... nothing less... Then we took a long break and the experience was chalked up and we went on.

This time, there was no set time in the device, there were no dice games, just wear it till she is in the mood. The first two months it were very sexually based. I was looking each time for a possible outing and none came. As month 3 rolled around I noticed things started changing. My sexual energy began to switch from the device to my wife. Her touch became like electricity running through me. She would "tweak" my nipples and this would drive me crazy with lust (Love my nipples to be played with).

Each week we have sat time aside so that I can take care of her orgasm. Last week, once done I slipped up to her and we were kissing, she began to play with my nipples. Fireworks went off in my head, electricity shot through me, I felt like I was on the edge of a orgasm when she smiled and stopped. I was in heaven. She drifted off to sleep and I found that men can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone with no attention to the penis. I knew I was one of the guys that could achieve this if she would have continued. I drifted off to sleep loving the experience.

I noticed each day when I kiss her and when we touch it is almost a pleasure itself like no other now. I believe it is because of the chastity and began to think.... This is why some don't want out of their devices..... My wife does not need intercourse at all to orgasm and intercourse has only been for my pleasure alone all these years (I always take care of her first). I sat down and thought, could I go a lot longer, with no chance of a outing? Could I achieve a orgasm with no stimulation alone to the penis? Was I willing to give it all up, to totally devote myself to my wife for a longer period?

A few days went by with me thinking long and hard about it. I made the decision and wrote the email. Knowing I needed to pick a day far in the distance but not too far so that I could really know if my feelings were still totally sexual or genuine to my wife, love and devotion for her. I decided one day we could remember easy, January 31st. When all W2's have to be sent out .lol.

I asked her to hold the keys with no release or removal (other than needed for doctor or metal detectors) and of course our weekly times to enjoy. She agreed easily saying she has seen a good shift of my personality and attention toward her and our relationship the last month. So with that said,  6 months are now on my path with no removal. I have dreamed of the day where I would not have a chance to choose. This day is now. I believe that once 2015 comes I will have only been "free" 82 days in 2014.. What a change from years past.

In 2015 once we reach that day, she has agreed to assess the experience and decide if I ever need to be released again for intercourse or sexual pleasure. She did say that she might use a vibrator while I am in my device and I of course have no issues with that! She also wants to see if I can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone before every trying a vibrator. Being semi-permanent based will see if I can mentally deal with the situation and if it is good/bad/does nothing for our relationship.

I know that my focus is 100% on her and can only see it growing as the months go by. When she came to me and said she would be glad to just keep the keys and see how things go in 2015 I was excited beyond believe and also a bit scare. Time will tell and I think my thoughts will end up here on a regular bases.

Monday, July 21, 2014

Past 75 days..

Today marks the 77th day that I have been in my device without any release or removal of any kind.

I have been torn a good bit on how long that I might be kept in the device and if that would really get to me at some point. Lately I have been showing my wife different bits of information that I have found that shows that there isn't any medical reason to remove me from my device and just like the last two post I have posted I shared those with her also.

I find that I am more focused and less interested in "wild" fantasies as I was before. I do think this is because of the chastity because as I would masturbate I would find myself getting bored and coming up with more "interesting" fantasies to fuel the fire so that I might reach a orgasm quicker.

Last night was a big stepping stone for me. We settled down for the night with a bath for her, a massage and then I was able to bring her to a nice orgasm to top off the night. Now I knew that there was no expectations for me to get out and I really enjoyed being able to focus on her. When finished I always slip up to her and give her a kiss, and when not locked, I then enter her for my turn. However, when locked I will do the same but give her a kiss and usually move to the side of her.

This time, I stayed as we talked and she reached up and began to play with my nipples. Now this is the most erotic zone of my body and anytime she wants me to "finish" quickly or she is ready for me to finish she just dials in the knobs and I am done. As we kissed and talked she continued to play with my nipples and waves of energy spiked and flowed throughout my body. Many times if felt like mini orgasms as I would shutter and jerk as she smiled and giggled.

I had never experienced something like that and after a while she was finished playing with me and the night was over. I however could not get the energy and excitement I felt out of my head and how I could feel that with no direct stimulation to my penis. I began to search on the internet and found that many men have had the same experiences I have.

In fact, quite a few have been able to have a orgasm by stimulation the nipples only. I do not think this could ever happen to me without my wife doing the stimulation to the nipples but my erotic curiosity has the best of me. I now wonder and want to explore the possibility of achieving a orgasm with no direct stimulation to the penis and mainly focusing on stimulation to the nipples.

This would/could bring the chastity to a completely different level. My wife does not need intercourse for a orgasm and if she could bring me to a orgasm with no stimulation and without removing the device, that would be mind boggling. How would that feel?!?!?!

The research has started on my part and as I see it right now, I am going out of town for a good week so unless there is a unlock tonight, I will be in and should break my record of 87 days shortly. Time will tell.. But till then, ..... Searching "nipple orgasm""... :)

Article sent by a friend

I was sent this article, not sure where it came from other than a friend on Fetlife. I found it very interesting and so did my wife. 

The Secret With In The Belt
With male chastity there is a side that is spoken of but never explained well. The reason and want for “tease and denial”. Men that use male chastity for extended periods (over a month) begin to have urges for “tease and denial”. The attempt to explain this to their spouse typically is unsuccessful.
The increase of testosterone and libido with extended chastity will level off after ~12-14 days. This allows a level amount of testosterone and libido allowing a better focus and function without distractions. This will cause the urge to focus on the spouse and not to have the need to complete an orgasm. The majority of men prefer to be tantalized to the edge of an orgasm without having one in extended chastity. This creates the term “tease and denial” and the need for it.

This includes sexual encounters without removal of the device or an orgasm from the male. The focus of the encounter is strictly on the spouse and sharing the spouse’s orgasm. This is a very common practice in tantric sex. The male can orgasm without intercourse still encased in the device and will feel the spouse’s outlet of energy, producing a stronger orgasm for the spouse and a close connection of the orgasm with the male. This can be achieved with practice.

To achieve this connection, with in foreplay both the spouse and male will bring the sexual energy to the edge of the need for intercourse. For the spouse this is more difficult since the male is “trapped” and usually the penis is the focal point of energy focus. The spouse can focus on any other erotic zone that tips the males energy. An unknown and highly effective zone is the male nipples. Throughout history documentation shows that men have been able to orgasm by nipple stimulation alone when at a very high erotic state. Other zones will differ with each male.

“Tease and denial” effectively is created when the spouse builds the energy of the male before the spouse will achieve an orgasm. The male will crest at the edge of an orgasm or complete an orgasm at this time. If the male isn’t able to orgasm it completes the “tease and denial”, if the male does orgasm there is still a “denial” of direct stimulation.

This does not mean that direct stimulation (removed from the device) by intercourse or other means should be bypassed. They result will create a much stronger orgasm of the male when this happens and the focus of the orgasm will be centered completely on the spouse. The time between “tease and denial” and direct stimulation is dependent on the couple. Some couples wait a few weeks where others wait a few months to even a year or longer. The major dependent, of the time, is related to the device and ability to wear long periods. Men surveyed stated the philological effect develops a greater connection between the male and spouse, enjoyment of surpassing direct stimulation orgasms, and a more meaningful trusting relationship.

Monday, July 7, 2014

A good read found on the net last night.

The Truth Behind The Belt

Male chastity is one topic that is not often talked about. The reason being such a psychological component to it that many people does not comprehend, along with the psychological component there is a physical component with advantages for men over 40.

After the age of 35, most men begin to experience a gradual decline in testosterone. A decrease of interest in sex is mistaken as a symptom of getting older. The decline in testosterone can cause erectile problems which add to the decrease of sex drive. The decrease of sex drive relates to increased masturbation and disconnect with the spouse, resulting in the decrease of intimate encounters or non-existence of encounters. Depression, high blood pressure, weight gain, lack of energy, irritable and easily aggressive tendencies is all symptoms of low testosterone.

Doctors will often prescribe testosterone replacement to correct testosterone levels. There are many natural ways to increase testosterone also. Male chastity is being used as a marital aid for millions of couple’s nation wide and a positive side effect is the increase of testosterone naturally. Increasing testosterone levels will not only correct the issues described but will also increase the ability to focus and be more successful completing task at work and home. 

Typically men continue to masturbate with a low testosterone level and low libido. Masturbation will give a spike of testosterone levels and good feeling but it is short lived. On average men masturbate every 2-3 days. With the use of chastity testosterone levels and libido increased leveling off at approximately 12-14 days. 
*Test subjects were split into two groups of males over the age of 35. Group one masturbated every 3 days and group two used a chastity device for 15 days. Testosterone levels were taken and compared to the % of level from an average 30 year old male.

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Let foot enter mouth.....

Now my vanilla wife is fine with the chastity it seems now. And she seems to really get when she wants to use her power over the keys she sure can......

Well I got my foot in my mouth and started a argument with her Saturday. Of course I went over the top, and of course I came back and apologized. Thinking things were all good we were out and about today and I suggested her taking a bath and getting a nice full body massage from me. Now this was not only a plan to make her feel better but also usually after a massage she is more in the mood for a bit of making out at the minimum.

She looked over at me and simply said, "That's a nice idea, but your NOT getting out of that thing for a LONG TIME." Which I was quickly put on my heels and agreed that I wasn't looking to get out and it was totally her choice on everything. She pointed out that "I put my foot in it big time, and since I am locked it makes it a lot easier to get her point across."

Last words she said about it, "Maybe when the climate changes you might get a chance..."

Well I did ask for it....

Thursday, July 3, 2014

July 4th special day for more than one reason.

I always love the forth of July and what it means for this country and what my grandfather and father put on the line for this country and for us to be able to enjoy what we can and the way we can.

I will also be enjoying my 60th day straight in chastity with no release of any kind. Yes a different kind of celebration to say the least. The device is pretty much a part of me and comfortable until I see something erotic or exciting, a lovely lady in a nice pair of heels or my wife pushes the right button and oh does the device remind me so well of my situation.

I have been luck enough to find a few different articles and information where couples have used chastity in a basic vanilla relationship that fits much of what my wife would be able to deal with. The one thing that is true about the summer and kids being at home, it kills a females libido..... My wife doesn't have any interest in "any" fun time with the kids up at home at night. Of course both of them love staying up late playing games and I have to work in the morning so I have to go to bed before they do. My wife also loves staying up late in the summer so I am fast asleep before she comes to bed.

The weekends I can't wait the kids out and fall asleep before they do. lol. It looks like the first day of school will set me at 112 days straight in chastity and  I believe the first chance we will get to have some private time will be at 115 days. Now the longest I have been in before was 87 days and during that time we did get some time to "take care of her" and I had to wait. Those times were very exciting because I would really want to get out for a bit but then find a happy place knowing I was locked and she was happy.

I am really thinking, if the chance does come up, asking to not be released the first few weeks we get back to having some private time. At around 140 days we have a "special day" between us coming up and that could be the day out.

I know many guys don't worry about how many days they have been in or how many days a year they are in/out of chastity. For some reason I like keeping track. I also, for some reason really find it exciting to be in chastity more than out for a year. The last 3 years we advanced the chastity play and in those earlier two years the most amount of time I had been in for a year was 145 days total. So I look at this year and could almost tie that with one sitting plus the extra 42 days from before I would be pushing over 50% of the year in chastity.

This gets to the point where we have been using chastity as a play thing in a way. When she releases me for intercourse I do not have to go back in, I am free till her next period and only if she tells me that she is on her period. This has me thinking that I do feel that I am actually a better person, my libido is higher and my attention is much better and focused when in chastity for longer periods.

I have read of many guys having X days that they have decided on with the wife that are days they get released... Aka; birthday, anniversary, holiday.. things somewhat like that. The rest of the time is focused on the wife and no releases. This is very appealing to me and to try for some reason. The catch for me is, I can only come up with two dates- my birthday and our anniversary.. That is a big jump from a guy that is use to masturbating a average of 2 times a day to what I am now....

But, time will tell where things go. It is totally up to her when and if I get out, I wanted this very bad for so many years, I will never ask to be let out. That's the one thing I vowed to her that I wouldn't do. (Now this doesn't include going through metal detectors or a doctors visit that I would have to remove it) that would be different. And we haven't had to deal with that yet.